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Monday, June 01, 2009

Memory Monday, I love you Mommie

Working my way through the alphabet, I'm now at E.........egads.........e?

Energy and Etiquette come to mind.

Energy, well...my Mom was scrappy and full of energy. I remember her stories of cooking on a one burner hot plate when she and Daddy first got married. I remember her washing dishes in the bathtub or doing laundry kitchen sink when things weren't working right, I remember her wringing out clothes by hand when the old wringer washer was on the frists and money was too tight to call the repair man. I remember her cooking, cleaning, washing, shopping, sewing, mending all the time. She was non stop. We had one used car which Daddy took to work, so........ when any of us kids were sick she walked to school to get us and bring us home. I remember Spring Cleaning when it truly was a job and you washed the inside and outside of the cupboards, the windows, beat the rugs outside and always ----------ALWAYS cooked a home cooked meal for your loved ones. I remember when she got her first job outside the house, she was an Avon Lady. She walked her entire route and that was in all kinds of weather. I remember home made bread, hand made clothes, and so much more. Energy.........and then some. She didn't have a computer or time saving devices like we all have; she didn't have older family members to babysit because she needed or wanted a night of peace, or time with the girls. No, that's not what women in her time did. They were a mother and a wife full time.......... 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year.

Mom taught me Etiquette.......from table manners (don't put your elbows on the table, don't chew with your mouth full, don't interrupt adults, put your napkin in your lap, break your bread into 3 pieces and only butter the piece you're currently eating after putting butter on your plate, ask to be excused from the table, don't eat until
every one has been served, on a date don't order the most expensive item on the menu, always thank your hostess, dance with everyone who asks you to dance, go out with the first person who asks you (thinking of school dances, you can't say no to one and then accept from another.........very bad form), someone should always thank and dance with the adult chaperons, don't say you don't like something to the hostess when being serve dinner---eat lightly and take small portions, and I'm sure there were other things..

Oh my yes....another one I remember is, don't flop in your chair or sofa, sit...there really is a difference. Don't put your feet on
the furniture with or without shoes on..........and always give up your chair or place in line to someone who is your elder.

One year she got me a book about proper etiquette which I found accidentally before she had a chance to wrap it for Christmas. I know there were other things in the book that don't come rolling off my
tongue at the moment.

I've passed along many of these traditional rules to my daughter in her growing up years. In her college years she told me how handy they had come in when she was in very adult situations which made her comfortable with her behavior.

Thanks Mom! You know I think this came out when our daughter taught a table manner class for her 5
th graders--- Right down to how to set the table. The final, was in fact when she prepared a special breakfast for them and they served each other.

Mother's are indeed very special; cherish them.

**if you're reading my blog for the first time, you may not know I lost my mother a few short weeks ago. You can scroll back a bit and read more.


  1. Sandy, Your Mom sounds just like mine.Only we lived in the country so Mom couldn't come to school and get us, besides we had NO telephone.
    We have great memories of wonderful women and truly they were wonderful, considerate people.
    That's what is wrong with the world now...No Mom's teaching the finer things of living among others . In fact most of the young Moms didn't have Moms who taught these values so they can't teach what they don't understand. Sad.
    I know you are missing your Mom today but such memories are a treasure she gave you to keep...

  2. Sandy, I love the way you are remembering your mother. I'm sorry to hear she passed, as its so hard when someone we love so much dies. Happy that she is home with Him and no longer in any pain. I love her smile. Its wonderfully sweet. I do need to have a little personal chat with you in an email if you can find a bit of time to chat..I love you Sandy. I've missed you very much.
    gentle hugs, Leslee

  3. Your tribute to your mother is beautiful, Sandy. When we lose the ones we love, they can always live on in our memories. It sounds like she was a very loving person, and it seems that she has passed her adorable personality on to you.

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  4. Oh man! I forgot to tell you to save, once you've completed the instructions above.

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  5. Beautiful post! I was never really taught about proper etiquette, but I came across a great book one day in the library when I was a teenager, and now being a mom to two beautiful 11 year old twin girls, I am constantly showing my two what's proper and whats not. Even at the tender age of 11 it's amazing how when we get home, they will point out what they noticed that wasn't proper! Thanks for the post!


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