Ash Wednesday is the night Mom went into the hospital and had emergency surgery, a few days ago Good Friday the doctor told us she would not heal. I asked if hospice was appropiate and his answer-- we've crossed the line where we're preventing her death instead of prolonging her life. We consulted Hospice and today Easter Sunday will be her first day under full Hospice Care. Once papers were signed yesterday it took til 8:30 last night to physically get the move done. She is very much at peace with this decision; though it was a difficult one for the family to come together on. I take comfort in knowing her decision is the right decision; though I say it with a heavy heart.
I hope each and everyone of you spend this special day with loved ones.
Having used Hospice I feel your pain, but also am glad that your mom will get the care she needs through Hospice. My experiences with Hospice have been that they are very caring, giving people and will do their best for your mom, keeping her comfortable and tending to her needs. I know it's very hard, but good that she is at peace with the decision.
ReplyDeleteMy dear friend....my heart is aching for you...rest in the peace your Mom has, and let her peace help you through this time..have no regrets, you did what you had to do, and all that you could have done..you did.
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:hug: I'm so sorry. Hospice care is wonderful, and I hope that this helps her and your entire family deal with this transition. This has been a long and difficult time for all of you.
ReplyDeleteSandy, I don't know what to say other than that I am so sorry you and your family have had to go through this very difficult time, and I hope peace visits you all soon. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteI really feel your pain. Take comfort though in the fact your dear mother is able to take part in the decision making and she is at peace with it. We were not so fortunate when my mother was unable (massive cerebral hemorrhage) to make that hard decision to let her die. It was very difficult and still haunts me to this day. I only wish she could have been able to come to that decision on her own and find peace with it.
ReplyDeleteKeeping her comfortable with her loved ones surrounding her is so important. Hugs {{{ }}}
SAndy, I am so sorry you are going through this. We never want to have a loved one depart from us. My Mom went in to the hospital on New Year's Eve 1996 for an angioplasty and died in the hospital in May. 5 months she was in there and what your Mom went through is similar to what my Mom went through. We never got to get her to hospice.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It will not be easy but, your Mom is at peace. Just be with her as much as you can.
Hugs! Continued peace be with your mom.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your mom. (Life has been a little hectic lately, and I got behind in my blog reading and comment writing. But I am getting caught up this morning.) I know this is incredibly difficult. But I am glad to read that your mom is at peace with the decisions you and your family have made. Take care, and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
ReplyDeleteMy dear friend Sandy, I go to church with two hospice workers. What selfless people they are. I have done much spiritual seeking in my last few years looking deep within for my own answers in life. Know that you are not alone, know that you are doing what is right. Just be there. I'm sending hugs your way.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry Sandy and your mother and you are in my prayers.
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